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Valentine’s Day Fun for Boomer Couples

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Article Written by Relationship Coaches – Submitted by Frankie Doiron

How to KISS on Valentine’s Day

The best way to celebrate Valentine’s Day is to KISS with your partner, meaning Keep It Simple, Sweetheart.

KISS reduces the pressure and enables you to focus on the real reason you are celebrating the day – to show love and affection for your partner. Valentine’s Day has become very commercialized, and if left to the last minute, can be expensive or disappointing.

Tenderness, romance, and love mean something different to each person. Decide, as a couple, what is most meaningful to you. Is it spending time together? Enjoying a romantic meal? A glass of wine? Above all, communicate! Decide ahead of time what you want to do – and don’t leave it to your partner to make the plans. Planning together will go a long way toward enhancing your chances of having a memorable day without disappointment or anxiety.

Ann Robbins | www.lifeworksmatchmaking.com | 954.561.4498

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Awesome Adventures

To have a memorable Valentine’s Day, think way “outside of the box.” Don’t go to your favorite restaurant or even buy that heart box of chocolates. Think unusual, different and a bit adventurous. Spice up your life with something new! As a couple, what have you been meaning to do but never seem to find the time or the ambition? Step boldly into Valentine’s Day and make it awesome!

You could be adventurous and be two skydivers holding hands as you jump out of a plane. In case that is way over the top, how about taking the quiet route to boldness and have an overnight stay in a B&B you have never visited before? It can be anything you choose as long as it is something new. You and your partner have the power to make this Valentine’s Day one to remember.

Judith Geiger | www.flyingchangecoaching.com | 315.497.3059

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Valentine’s Day — Forget about it!

The flowers, the candy, the Hallmark commercials, the jewelry, the pressure! Valentine’s Day is filled with so much commercialism and pressure. Women put pressure on men to do something that proves their love for them. Men scramble to do their best to make up for the rest of the year, please their ladies and stay out of the doghouse.

Why not forget about it? Why not create connection and romance every day on a regular basis and not succumb to the cultural “should” of February 14th? Imagine little gestures of love on a regular basis allowing the flow of intimacy to be constant and meaningful.

So what to do for Valentine’s Day? How about a little quiet time together, a little gesture of connection for that day and every day? Imagine the feeling of a daily text, note, flower, card, or words of appreciation that will build an even stronger longer-lasting bond.

Susan Ortolano | www.radiantpathways.com | 818.232.3186

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Diva or “Heva” Day

If your partner’s Love Language is physical touch, give him or her a loving or erotic massage, and make love afterwards! Better yet, trade massages, and then make love. If that is not one’s preference, then let him or her be the Diva or “HeVa” for an afternoon or evening, giving them your full attention and admiration, and indulging their wishes. Counter propose if you have any objections.

Annette Carpien | www.greatrelationshipscoaching.com | 610.428.2755

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Valentine’s Day!! Bah Humbug??

Well, maybe! Although Valentine’s Day is a fabricated lover’s holiday, what would be possible in your relationship if you used this day to begin a daily ritual of heartfelt, creative thought and expression aimed at honoring your chosen partner as “The One”?

Where would I begin? I’m glad you asked! Let’s take a look at some specific actions to find out.

1. As you awake in the morning, call to mind the characteristics that you most appreciate about your lover.
2. Tell them!
3. Make a list of what brings them the most joy in life
4. Figure out how you can provide whatever is required to allow them to do exactly that!
5. Ask them to share something about their day
6. Listen deeply to them

If you begin to provide ways for your partner to have a great life, you will, too!

Bill Paglia-Scheff | www.extraordinaryrelationship.blogspot.com | 860.209.9254

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The Valentine’s Day Love Ritual

Besides the lovely flowers and chocolate we all enjoy, I like the idea of each partner starting their own Valentine’s Relationship Journal. Each person logs in whenever they are so inclined and jots down whatever comes to mind about their partner. It may be a thought of gratitude or appreciation for something big or something recent.

Or it could be something personal about needs they have in the relationship that they’d like to discuss, ways they feel proud that they have contributed to improving the relationship, or possibly ways they would like to enhance the intimacy of the relationship. Then, once a week, together they can create a romantic space to share their entries, allowing each other to be fully heard, followed by acknowledging, discussing, and thanking each other for being open, trusting and loving.

Candace Brindley | www.Rich-Relationships.com | 203.247.4613

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Forget the Flowers! Find the real Focus!

Valentine’s Day has become a “Hallmark Holiday.” Interestingly, it’s become a day that many couples break up. Expectations are destroyed, feelings hurt, egos destroyed. However, for you, it can strengthen your bonds with the right focus.

What can you do to make it a memorable holiday? Focus internally on you and your partner. Forget the flowers, it’s not about the stuff, it’s about you and your partner. One of my favorite activities to do on romantic occasions is to make a nice dinner together, and with a glass of wine, cuddle on the couch with one of those question books (Intellectual Foreplay, Questions to Ask Before you get Engaged, 1000 questions for Couples) and ask each other those fabulous evocative, soul-searching questions. Get to know and appreciate your loved one even more today! OK, if you give flowers, you get extra points!